Writing & resources
Choose the situation closest to what you are dealing with. Try a guided exercise, think through the questions privately, or use the blank PDF on the decision exercise. You do not need to finish anything before asking for help.
When one worry keeps leading to another, start here. Choose a thinking pattern, try a brief exercise, and notice what changes, if anything.
Guided exercise · before-and-after check-in · no signup
When the same argument keeps coming back, start with one recent conversation. Make two choices to find an exercise and words you can try.
Two choices · no typing or downloads required
When a separation-related decision feels stuck, choose one issue. Sort out what you know, what information is missing and what you want understood. You do not have to reach an agreement.
Private reflection · interactive exercise and blank fillable PDF
Three choices · Tailored reflection · No signup
When you want to change and also have reasons to keep things as they are, this exercise helps you consider both. Choose what fits and get questions and a possible next step based on your choices.
Before you begin: No typing is needed. Your choices stay in this open exercise and are not sent to the practice. Start over or reload to clear them. You can stop or leave the decision open; there is no score or required feeling of relief.
This is an educational exercise, not therapy, diagnosis or crisis care. If speaking honestly or trying a change feels unsafe, seek private, qualified support rather than testing it alone.
You can ask Alan about working together without sending your exercise answers.
Please leave exercise answers, symptoms, diagnoses, medications, treatment history, legal papers, financial documents and other sensitive details out of an initial inquiry. View fees and Good Faith Estimate information.
For help understanding your own feelings, motivations and recurring patterns, explore Individual Therapy. To work together on a disagreement or decision, explore Couples Mediation. For practical decisions about separation, explore Divorce Mediation. If you are unsure, you can ask about the difference before choosing.
Exercise answers are not submitted to the practice. Saved or copied answers may remain on your device, clipboard or backups. Keep them private.
Either person can pause or decline. If speaking honestly or saying no feels unsafe, do not use this together; seek private, qualified support.
These are educational resources, not therapy, diagnosis, legal advice or emergency care. Using them does not create a professional relationship.