Understand yourself more clearly.
Live more deliberately.
Therapy for capable, responsible people who are used to figuring things out for themselves.
Virtual individual therapy for adults in New York and New Jersey.
15 minutes · phone or video · private-pay inquiries
Working with individuals & couples
Start with what you need help with.
Individual therapy
When overthinking, pressure or familiar patterns are getting in the way, therapy offers space to understand them and work toward change.
Couples mediation
Work on the disagreement you keep returning to, and what happens between you when you try to resolve it.
Divorce mediation
A structured, neutral process for working through practical decisions about separation and what comes next.
What working together is like.
I’m Dr. Alan Winder, a Clinical Psychologist and Certified Couples Mediator with more than 20 years of experience.
I’m practical and direct. We’ll look at why a problem keeps happening, what you want to change and what makes that difficult. Your values and responsibilities matter. I’m here to help you think more clearly about your choices, not make them for you.
When your strengths start getting in the way.
Thinking ahead, taking responsibility and pushing yourself can serve you well. They can also leave you replaying conversations, managing everyone else’s feelings or struggling to switch off.
We can look at where those habits help and where a different response might be useful.
A first conversation
Book a free introduction
A free, 15-minute phone or video call to discuss what you’re looking for and whether we might work well together. For private-pay inquiries. For insurance inquiries, contact the practice.
Choose a time
For general service inquiries only. Please do not enter health or treatment details.
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Free resources
Choose an exercise for what feels stuck.
Try a short exercise on your own. No signup required.
When one worry leads to another
Choose a thinking pattern, try a brief exercise, and notice what changes, if anything.
When the same argument keeps coming back
Start with one recent conversation. Make two choices to find an exercise and words you can try.
When a separation decision feels stuck
Choose one issue. Sort out what you know, what information is missing, and what you want understood.
When you feel pulled in two directions
Consider your reasons to change and your reasons to keep things as they are, without forcing a decision.
For organizations & professional teams
A clinical perspective beyond the consulting room.
Talks, workshops and consultation grounded in clinical practice, with attention to how people understand problems, make decisions and use technology.