Individual therapy
You may have a good career, people who depend on you and plenty to be grateful for, yet spend much of your time feeling tense, dissatisfied or hard on yourself. It can be difficult to explain that to someone who thinks you have everything going for you.
I work with adults facing these kinds of difficulties, with a particular focus on successful men. In therapy, we look at what is troubling you, how you have been trying to handle it and what might help.
Dr. Alan Winder, Clinical Psychologist
More than 20 years of experience · Online in New York and New Jersey
15 minutes · Phone or video · Private-pay inquiries
What brings you here?
Sometimes there is a clear problem. Other times, you just know that you don’t want to keep feeling this way. We might work on:
- Anxiety that follows you home or keeps you awake.
- Self-criticism that makes it hard to enjoy what you accomplish.
- Arguments, resentment or distance in a relationship.
- Difficulty saying no without feeling guilty.
- Uncertainty about a career, relationship or major decision.
You don’t have to decide what to call it before we meet.
How I work
I’m direct and involved. I listen, ask questions and offer observations. We spend time on actual situations in your life, including the parts that are uncomfortable or difficult to explain.
You might tell me about an argument and immediately explain why it shouldn’t have bothered you. Or describe taking on another responsibility, then feel guilty for resenting it. Looking more closely at those moments can help us understand what you want and why it has been hard to act on it.
We’ll consider practical changes, but also the feelings and expectations that make those changes difficult. I won’t tell you how you should live or assume that a difficult feeling needs to be talked away. Your priorities, relationships and responsibilities are part of the conversation.
What to expect in a session · Fees and payment
Want to work on a disagreement together with your partner? Read about couples mediation.
Book a free introduction
We can start with a free, 15-minute phone or video call. Tell me a little about what brings you here, ask your questions and see whether working together makes sense.
Therapy sessions are online for adults in New York and New Jersey. I generally work with people 20 and older. Website bookings are private-pay. See fees, or ask about insurance.
Choose a time
Choose an available date, then a time, to book your free introduction with Dr. Winder. Please leave health and treatment details out of the booking form.
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Explore on your own
If one worry keeps turning into another, try the Snowball Effect exercise. If you feel torn about a change, explore the competing motivations exercise. Both are free and require no signup.