Individual Therapy
Dr. Alan Winder, Clinical Psychologist
More than 20 years of experience · NY | NJ | Video Sessions
Sometimes there is a clear reason to come to therapy. Sometimes there isn’t. You may be dealing with a specific problem, a difficult period, a relationship, a decision, or a major change. Or you may simply feel that something in your life isn’t working the way you want it to. You may want to understand yourself better, make sense of patterns that keep repeating, or have a place to think more honestly about what is happening.
Overthinking, pressure and difficulty switching off
You may replay conversations long after they are over, keep anticipating what could go wrong, or feel responsible for keeping everyone around you comfortable. Even when you get everything done, it may be hard to relax. A relationship disagreement can occupy the rest of your evening; a decision can keep expanding as you try to account for every possible consequence.
We can look at what is keeping that pressure going: what needs action, what belongs to someone else, and what remains uncertain however carefully you think about it. The work starts with the particular situations you are living through, rather than a general instruction to worry less.
Who tends to work well with me
I tend to work especially well with people who are used to figuring things out themselves, who have already thought a lot about what is bothering them, or who have tried therapy before and want something more direct and useful. You may already understand why you react a certain way and still keep reacting that way. You may know what you should do and still have trouble doing it. That is usually where we start: looking more closely at what is actually keeping the problem going and what may need to change. Sometimes that means questioning a way of thinking, changing a behavior, being more honest with yourself, or recognizing that something you have been trying to fix may need to be accepted instead.
What to expect
Practical questions
Where do sessions take place?
I offer virtual therapy for adults throughout New York and New Jersey and am accepting new clients from both states. Appointments take place online; no in-person appointments are offered.
How does private payment work?
Therapy arranged through this website is private-pay. Please ask about current session fees before beginning therapy. If you are seeking to use insurance, clarify payment arrangements before booking.
What happens in the consultation?
The first step is a brief, 15-minute consultation to talk about what you are looking for, ask practical questions and consider whether working together makes sense. You do not need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
How do I check availability?
The scheduler below shows consultation openings. We can discuss availability for ongoing therapy during the consultation.
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A brief consultation gives us a chance to talk about what you’re looking for and whether I may be able to help