Understand yourself more clearly. Live more deliberately.

Therapy for capable, responsible people who are used to figuring things out for themselves.

Sometimes the qualities that make you successful can also make life harder.

Being analytical, anticipating problems, taking responsibility, and pushing yourself can take you a long way. But those qualities don’t work equally well everywhere.

You may find yourself overthinking something that can’t be solved, taking responsibility for things that aren’t entirely yours, or having trouble relaxing even when there’s finally nothing you need to do.

I’ve become particularly interested in these patterns over the years. The goal isn’t to make you less driven, responsible, or analytical. It’s to understand where those qualities are still serving you—and where they’re getting in your way.

Ways to work with me

Individual Therapy

I work primarily with capable, responsible men who are used to handling things themselves. Often they’re doing well in most parts of life but dealing privately with anxiety, pressure, self-criticism, relationship problems, or difficulty ever really switching off. My practice isn’t limited to men; I also work with women who relate to these concerns.

Couples Mediation

For couples who keep getting stuck around the same issues and want help understanding what’s happening between them while also working toward practical changes and agreements.

Divorce Mediation

For couples who need to work through decisions about children, finances, property and schedules in a more structured and less adversarial way.

Meet Dr. Winder

I’m Dr. Alan Winder, a Clinical Psychologist and Certified Couples Mediator. I’ve been working with individuals and couples for more than 20 years.

I tend to be practical and direct, but I also think it’s important to understand why something keeps happening rather than just trying to make it stop.

Sometimes the work is about understanding yourself better. Sometimes it’s about making a concrete change. Usually it’s some of both. I don’t come in with a particular idea of how you should think or live.

Your values, beliefs, relationships and responsibilities are part of the work. My role is to help you understand yourself and your situation more clearly, not to make decisions for you.